I’m convinced that the old sayings are useful advice, but many are so outdated that we don’t understand their meaning. “Don’t put all your eggs in one basket” makes sense in concept, but how many Americans today gather eggs into baskets and carry them to market? “Don’t throw the baby out with the bath” used to make sense too, but there’s no way babies fit down that little drain in the tub, so….what does it really mean?
“Count your blessings” is a lot easier: be grateful for what you have. No technological update required.
Some really annoying things happened to me this morning – call them challenges or obstacles – whatever the case, today, I let them get to me. I got grumpy. And then I remembered: I’m grateful today because it’s my daughter’s sobriety birthday tomorrow.
It will be nine years since she last used drugs or alcohol. Nine years that she’s instead used to build a rich life in recovery. Oh, it’s no fairy tale, but she’s worked her program, been of service, gotten an education, integrated fitness and nutrition into her daily life, built a great group of friends in recovery, achieved a career, and gotten engaged to marry. Brick by brick, she’s built it.
That’s also nine years during which I wasn’t worried every day that she might die in some horrible way. We almost lost her more than once, and her recovery is a huge blessing for all of us in the family – not least for her.
So, I’m smiling now. The day’s challenges didn’t go away, but I did count my blessings. In recovery terms, I made an inventory, and I found reasons to be deeply happy, despite the day’s turbulence. So remember, “never look a gift horse in the mouth!” Uh…I mean, be grateful for the beautiful things in your life, as I am for my daughter’s recovery.
Happy Birthday Ashley!